The People Pleaser

Givers have to set limits, because takers don’t have any.  I’m going to be the bad guy and say it.  Being a ‘”Yes man” can get you in all kinds of trouble and wreak havoc in your life.  All relationships do require a certain level of agreeableness to exist, but where do you draw the…

The Tribe

My husband wanted a date/family night this evening, so he chose dinner followed by a bookstore followed by the movie Scary Stories to Tell in the Dark. If you don't know, it was a book my husband and I read as children, so we were overly excited after spotting it in a local bookstore a…

Freudian Slip

Sometimes things happen right when you need them, and it testifies on where you've been. I recall getting off work several years ago, yet I would drive around my house as opposed to going home. I did this daily, but I never thought anything of it at the time. I honestly believed it was completely…

The War of the Wills

As far back as I can remember, my mother has attempted to control the course of my life by reprimanding every attempt at individuality. My mother wanted me to learn piano whereas I wanted to learn to play the violin, and I was not allowed to learn any instrument if I did not learn piano.…

Not a Bologna Sandwich

The most uncomfortable truth about Heroin and opiate addiction is that it affords the user one of two options-you get sober, or you die. That is the rule of the game you play when you invite that monster in your life. I did not make the rule. It just is. My area is not well-known…

Road Rage

An astronomical portion of my job is travel. I get an oil change every two to three weeks, if that puts it into perspective. As a result, I have made some observations so obvious to me yet oblivious to half of the population sharing those roads with me. Most people seem painfully unaware of this…

The Shadow

The story of Jonah always intrigued me due to its imagery. If you don't know, Jonah runs in the opposite direction after God instructs him to go to Nineveh to preach to the gentiles. This is comparable to asking a Jew in 1940 to deliver a testimony to the Nazis. Of course the prospect was…

A River in Egypt

Carl Rogers, humanistic psychologist, postulated it was impossible to help someone if they do not believe they need to improve. The desire to improve must be a precondition of progress, and many substance abuse programs base their mode of treatment on this belief. The first step is admitting you have a problem, and you can…

Coincidences

I had a revelation today. Allow me to explain. This will require a backstory. I am what you might refer to as a plant hoarder. As a result, my spouse put his foot down and insisted I stop purchasing houseplants. I can feel free to split and propagate the plants I already own, but I…